I've never been the best with time management. I've been criticized of stuffing too many activities into a day, both personally and professionally.
Granted, there are 60 seconds in a minute. 60 minutes in a hour. 24 hours in a day. 7 days in a week. 52 weeks in a year.
To me there is more than enough time for me to do everything for/with everyone. Work for 8.5 hours; hit the gym for 2 hours; run errands for 2 hours; meet the girls/family for some healthy fun for 3 hours; attend dance rehearsal for 3.5 hours; spend time with my man for 3 hours and sleep for 3 hours.
See, all of that sounds doable.....to me, however, I was recently told by a good friend that it doesn't seem like I have time for a relationship. I'm too busy with family, friends, dance the gym, church and other obligations. Like I make time for whomever I'm dealing with AFTER I've done everything else.
That hurt. It hurt because I've heard that sentiment echoed from several men whom I've dated, including the ex fiance.
I'm a firm believer if several people who don't know each other are saying the same thing, then there is validity to the statement.
I admit, I fill my plate with TOO much stuff, with reason. Let's start with being a single woman, I have a lot of free time on my hands. But honestly when I'm not running around, involved in something, or what have you, I tend to get in "trouble". I don't mean legal trouble, but mental/physical trouble.
I may start eating a bunch of junk.
Or thinking about the bad parts of my life.
Or have suicidal thought .
Or I may feel alone.
All of those things drive me to a bad place. So to combat that, I stay busy! I stay involved.
Not to mention, growing up I didn't have the confidence to do much. Back then I didn't want to be around anyone. I just lived in that bad space.
Now I find myself having to find a balance. I need to make myself available to whomever I'm dating so he doesn't feel like I'm "fitting" him my schedule; but rather he has an important place in my schedule. I want to give him the best of me, not the leftovers after an exhausting day.
I want him to feel like the time we spend together is just as important to me as my time in the gym.
I created this life because my time was my own, but if I ever want to get to a place where I'm sharing my everything with my mate then I need to make changes.
Here's to doing AM and/or lunch workouts.....hanging with the girls once a month....saying "no" to always being available to family......to happiness and sharing life with someone :-)
"Time waits for no man."
Granted, there are 60 seconds in a minute. 60 minutes in a hour. 24 hours in a day. 7 days in a week. 52 weeks in a year.
To me there is more than enough time for me to do everything for/with everyone. Work for 8.5 hours; hit the gym for 2 hours; run errands for 2 hours; meet the girls/family for some healthy fun for 3 hours; attend dance rehearsal for 3.5 hours; spend time with my man for 3 hours and sleep for 3 hours.
See, all of that sounds doable.....to me, however, I was recently told by a good friend that it doesn't seem like I have time for a relationship. I'm too busy with family, friends, dance the gym, church and other obligations. Like I make time for whomever I'm dealing with AFTER I've done everything else.
That hurt. It hurt because I've heard that sentiment echoed from several men whom I've dated, including the ex fiance.
I'm a firm believer if several people who don't know each other are saying the same thing, then there is validity to the statement.
I admit, I fill my plate with TOO much stuff, with reason. Let's start with being a single woman, I have a lot of free time on my hands. But honestly when I'm not running around, involved in something, or what have you, I tend to get in "trouble". I don't mean legal trouble, but mental/physical trouble.
I may start eating a bunch of junk.
Or thinking about the bad parts of my life.
Or have suicidal thought .
Or I may feel alone.
All of those things drive me to a bad place. So to combat that, I stay busy! I stay involved.
Not to mention, growing up I didn't have the confidence to do much. Back then I didn't want to be around anyone. I just lived in that bad space.
Now I find myself having to find a balance. I need to make myself available to whomever I'm dating so he doesn't feel like I'm "fitting" him my schedule; but rather he has an important place in my schedule. I want to give him the best of me, not the leftovers after an exhausting day.
I want him to feel like the time we spend together is just as important to me as my time in the gym.
I created this life because my time was my own, but if I ever want to get to a place where I'm sharing my everything with my mate then I need to make changes.
Here's to doing AM and/or lunch workouts.....hanging with the girls once a month....saying "no" to always being available to family......to happiness and sharing life with someone :-)
"Time waits for no man."
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