Dating as an adult can be VERY tricky. In my younger years I saw no real issues with dating a young man for months/years on end without talking about the future. In my eyes I had plenty of time and a life to live before discussing marriage/kids. At that point I was still "finding myself" and figuring out what I wanted in a relationship/significant other.
At this stage in my life I believe it is important to determine if the relationship has the potential to be a life-long bond after about 6-months of dating. I'm not getting any younger and 9 times out of 10 neither is the guy. Now I'm not saying after 6 months we need to start planning weddings, etc. But after 6 months you KNOW if you want that person to continue to be in your spaces and if it's worth building a future with them.
That brings me to a conversation I had last night with a man I've been dating for about 7 months. I'm not a fan of wasting my time and I am a fairly upfront person so I asked him a random question, in no uncertain terms about the future. His responses shocked me a little because from the beginning I told him I am not dating just to date.
Now I am at a place where I have to decide to cut all ties and move on or stay and see what the end may be. Honestly, I'm not sure what I want to do. I care for him very much, but there are aspects of our relationship that is not working. Tonight's discussion should be intersting.
I'm not one to play games, so I may just fold my hand and leave the table.
When should you start thinking about and/or discuss the future when dating?
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